Frustrated with yourself that you can’t seem to reach your goals?
Perhaps it’s not you 🙃 It’s the way you set your goals.
When you don’t have control over the outcome, it becomes incredibly hard to reach your goals – leaving you feeling defeated and perpetually disappointed in yourself.
Here are outcome-based goals that I hear a lot:
>> I will lose 15 pounds
>> I will be a size 4
>> I will get to 20% body fat
Guess how much control you actually have over achieving those goals? Zero. Zilch. Nada.
Alternatively, here are process-based goals that we can adopt instead:
>> I will eat up to my protein targets at least 5 days of the week
>> I will follow a structured strength training program 4 days per week
>> I will take a 15 minute walk over my lunch break
Process-based goals are centered around actions that you *can* control. They are actions that likely move you in a direction that gets you closer to your goal outcome (leaner, stronger, fitter, for example) and focus is on building a habit. We know that what we do often is what leads to the results that we want.
You may have only known how to set outcome-based goals because you thought that was your only option. Unfortunately, there is *so* much out of your control when it comes to body weight, body size, body composition that when we set goals with these as our vision of success (1) we may never get there or (2) we end up feeling incredibly defeated when we don’t achieve them.
Run your goals through this filter and decide if your goals need to be reframed:
>> is this something I can control?
>> do the actions I’m taking lead to the outcome I want?
>> can I make small actionable steps towards that outcome?
>> is this something I actually care about deep down?
If the answer isn’t “yes” so all those questions, you need to reframe your goal!
